Grief -an Overwhelming Feeling

The main thing I have heard from the people I talk to is that grief comes in waves, and it is up to us to ride them.

Something on TV, a card you come across, a memory that pops into your head, none of these experiences are overwhelming until they get coupled with a warm feeling about that person we miss.

The warm feelings are the missing pieces in our lives. Loved ones leave us with an emptiness that feels physical at times. The experience of the gut-wrenching feeling of loss, along with sadness is normal in the grieving episodes. As time passes, we can become accustomed to these moments and move forward with a sort of melancholy or even an angry thought or two about how you are here, and they are gone, left with the gaping hole that is left inside.

Being with other people brings many of us up from the down. Feeling connected to others is a short-term solution, and being helpful to others can also help us. When people say, "I am sorry for your loss", they mean it. If they could say more than that, they probably would. But for the most part, people feel frozen with what to say that would help you or comfort you. It is an inside job and you are on a journey to do the handiwork it takes to heal. Sending virtual hugs if you need any.